As a retired member of the military, I have a particular perspective and insight regarding both the struggles and rewards of military service. In the course of duty to our Country, we are sometimes tasked with doing things directly in conflict with our personal beliefs. Additionally, we may experience or are directly impacted by traumatic events. Our training says “No time for tears”, mission first and for good reason. When the dust settles and time passes we may feel numb, distracted, guilty or maybe just stuck. We may have been told that these are signs of weakness and we may even feel that we are weak, “I am a failure”. This negative belief may be expressed with outbursts of anger, rage, depressing and we may self medicate to cope. We do what we have to do in any given situation. The question: “Is what I am doing effective?” or is it detrimental to my health and wellbeing. You only need to look into the faces of your loved ones to see that it isn’t effective. You are not alone. There are things you can learn and things you can do differently that are more effective. My experiences working with these issues give me the skills to help you learn a different way of behaving that will help.